I had a boyfriend once who could sit across the table from me and lie to me most convincingly. He was a beautiful man, charming, fun to be with, and charismatic. But he was dangerous… why? Because at every turn, he lied. It was hard to ask a simple question because the facts always shifted and after a while, I just gave up. I spent too much time trying to discern any nugget of truth from his constant salad of words. I wanted desperately to believe him, and he was actually terribly convincing. He never showed any sign of lying and yet, nothing matched up. Ever. No story was ever really true. When I knew him better, I would catch him lying to others just for the fun of it– when I called him on it, he got angry at me, made excuses, said he was joking or even claim what he was saying was true. Later, he would deny the incident ever happened or he would claim ignorance– “what are you talking about?– That’s not what happened– I don’t think you heard me correctly….”
But I stayed wishing for some time that he was real. He needed me to adore him. And I wanted to be loved by him. Even after knowing all these things about him, I still wondered if I was wrong. He was just so damn convincing.
Our president is like this. He mesmerizes his followers by saying what they want to hear, regardless if he believes it or not… which I don’t think he does. Trump is Richie Rich grown up; spoiled, entitled, expecting his way at all costs. He does not understand or care about the common person, but he will use them for his narcissistic supply. He will say what they want to hear because it feeds his ego. He does not care, and when the chips come down, he will sacrifice them all for himself. America has fallen for a con man, a snake oil salesperson of the finest. Just watch him. He is shifting sand.
Don’t get me wrong. I do understand. I’ve been part of the working poor, the disenfranchised and left behind by the Democratic elite, but in no way can super rich, dark money taking Republicans understand any of our struggles, no matter what good lines they may use on us. They are like my old boyfriend. They say the right things at the right time. They snuggle up and pretend to care and hear us when we tell them our challenges. They smile and stroke our hair, but when the bus comes, they push us under to save themselves. It’s not personal. It’s just the nature of con men. So don’t invite them into your home or your mind.
All of this behavior is problematic, but when the mentor in chief makes hatefulness more popular, and those who disagree with him to be “other”, less than human, and worthy of being treated badly, then we have more serious problems. When civility and respect are considered some form of “political correctness”; mocked and made fun of, well then, the only consequence is becoming a very ugly people with no manners or accountability at all.
I feel both the Dems and Republicans have failed us. We need leaders who lead from the heart and are willing to admit when they are wrong. We need leaders who put the greater good ahead of their own interests or special interests that bring them affluence and power. We need leaders who understand that power—- real power —comes from within. Real power is gentle, kind and does right by others.
Real power makes sure that we all have good healthcare, just like Congress and the President. Real power cares and appreciates the contributions of all, and is not threatened by disagreement or difference. Real power is a super power, and that’s why it is so rare.
If we are in a time of celebrity presidents without political credentials, then I want Oprah to be our president. I believe she would uphold and honor her oath to this country. I think she would probably stand firm on health care for all, and fair taxes. And when she finds herself in conflict, I think she would handle it as a mentor in chief with dignity, civility, manners and grace; the most powerful and needed ways of conducting oneself in this world.
Those of us who know struggle, often have the best vantage point for helping those who are struggling. Those who have learned courage know that facing fear is a way of life not for the faint of heart or mean people.